I just want one or two friends who are close and I can count on for times I need someone to talk with or go to the mall or go for coffee with. Friends who are reliable. I find most people very unreliable, and thats difficult for me to take. I'm a military spouse which makes it difficult since I have no family (and I mean absolutely NO one) around me and what family I do have has lost contact with me over the years. It's a very lonely, isolated life. Plus the military takes my husband away from me for months, sometimes years at a time, and we live off base (rent is TOO expensive for base housing in Canada, it's cheaper to have a mortgage!) which makes it really difficult to access any resources on base. It's depressing just thinking about it.
Sounds a bit depressing, I know, but it's an honest answer. It will be interesting to see how different I feel once my husband is home from this latest deployment.
((((hugs)))) I wish we were closer, we could totally do a coffee date... or several...
ReplyDeleteI think what I get lonely for is people who will come to visit ME... not that this is something new, because not that many people visited us even when we were home. But it would be nice to have someone call up once in a while and say hey, I'm coming over, put on the coffee... my mom and her best friend used to be like that, but my best friend is five provinces away and my mom is six. I'm making new friends, but it's slow going and I do miss having close and open relationships like that.
Yes, I understand. Maybe we'll get a posting message in a few months and end up neighbours!
ReplyDeleteI think when we have kids it's so nice to have someone come to us, rather than us bundle up the kids (I'm thinking of days like today!) then haul them off to someone's house. It's bad enough getting them in the vehicle, but if you don't drive then you have to take a cab or walk, usually a long walk, to someone'e house. Just thinking about it makes me think I'd rather just stay home!
.::hugs::. I can only imagine how hard it is! my husband is a railroader (I know that can't compare) but it is a very different life than the 'norm'. We're at totally opposit ends of the city, so getting together is hard, but if you ever want to chat you know where to find me :)
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